Thoughts On Blogging…

So, let’s cut straight to the point of this blog post.

Lately I’ve been struggling with the question of “Should I continue blogging?”

Every time I stop by my favorite bloggers sites it becomes more and more clear to me that I’m not as savvy with photo editing, or I’m not that great of a writer, or I don’t have fancy outfit posts or DIY projects or drool worthy recipes or tutorials to share.

I’m just me. Sharing our story. Or whatever else I feel like sharing that day.

But lately I’ve been wondering if that’s enough, and really questioning WHY it is that I keep this space going.

When I first started writing this blog I loved the community of bloggers that I met. I can honestly say (and I hope that no one gets offended!) that I haven’t connected with fellow bloggers on the same level that I once connected with bloggers two years ago, when I first began writing.

I feel like the blogging community that I once loved has recently taken a turn for the worst and that the “community” is now one big competition. It feels like a silly rat race of who will get the most GFC followers, or Twitter followers, or Instagram followers, etc.

And really … what’s the prize?

Being so “number hungry” it’s actually very silly, because guess what? – those numbers, specifically GFC numbers, are NOT a clear indication of who actually reads a blog … in fact, GFC followers are typically just other Bloggers who use the platform, or people who signed up for GFC in order to enter giveaways and “follow via GFC”, which is one of the hottest giveaway entry trends right now.

To be honest with everyone, when I decided to offer advertising options, and when I started hosting group giveaways, it was because everyone else was doing it. It felt like something that I had to do once I hit X amount of followers and Y amount of pageviews, to prove that I meant business in the “blog world”.

Don’t misunderstand me – I appreciate every single person who invests their hard earned money on advertising with me … and what first started out simply as “the thing to do” has grown into something where I genuinely enjoy picking out my favorite items from shops, and my favorite blog posts from bloggers, and passing them on to my “followers” to enjoy, too.

I think sponsoring blogs and participating in giveaways are fantastic ways to market yourself and to get your name out there to an audience who all share at least one common interest, the blogger who you’re advertising with.

In fact, advertising on other, more popular blogs such as Erin‘s or Aunie‘s is where a chunk of my blog followers (who actively engage with me) have come from. Advertising does work.

But I want “followers” and “fans” who actually care about what I have to say – I don’t want people who just stop by, hit the Follow via GFC button or “like” my page on Facebook and never return again.And I want people to follow the blogs and the businesses that advertise with me because they are happy that they were introduced to them … I don’t want people to follow a blog or business that advertises here just in hopes of winning something from the group giveaway.

So, to answer my “Should I continue blogging?” question, which I asked up above before this post went haywire and all over the place – yes, I will continue blogging.

But I will continue blogging for me.From here on out – I want people to “follow” my blog because they enjoy what I publish here.Or, unfollow me if you think it’s crap. That’s fine too.I’m over playing the numbers game.

While I may not have Photoshop or an expensive sense of fashion, I do have heart … which I pour into most everything that I publish here … and that’s what you’ll find here – my heart, my voice, my journey, my interests, and my life – all of which are much more relatable than the number of followers I have on Facebook.

So, with all of that being said – let’s try to bring the true community back to blogging, shall we?

  • Allison @ Lawfully Lost

    You said it. I’m new to the blogging world, and to be honest, I’m kind of taken aback. All the blogs that I used to read are all sponsor posts. It’s great to meet new bloggers, but having a guest post every day kind of waters down the whole point of it. For the record, I really like reading your blog, whatever it is you feel like pouring your soul into for that particular post.

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      I agree with you that constantly having guest posts waters down the content of a site – and that’s definitely not what I want to happen here. I think that I do a pretty “ok” job with not constantly pushing sponsors down my readers throats – first it annoys my readership base, which makes advertising not really all that effective for my sponsors.

      I’m glad that you enjoy reading my shenanigans and I’m happy that you stop by! xoxo

  • Jessica Who?

    I’m so glad you posted this. i needed it and i completely agree. i’ve seen several posts regarding this topic but yours is the only one that i can completely relate too. i think i’ve become very jaded with this whole blogging thing lately.

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Hi Jessica!

      Thanks so much for your kind words! I’ve seen many posts lately related to this topic as well. It’s so easy to become jaded and caught up in this whole blogging thing … but it’s exhausting, isn’t it? I went through older posts that I wrote a few nights ago and they really motivated me to get back to the basics of blogging. Back when I had 200 “followers” and I was still writing only for me, my posts came much easier and I was much happier with this space. My hope is that I can get back to that … and that blogging will be fun and something that I truly enjoy again. xo

  • San

    I completely understand where you’re coming from. I am glad WordPress got rid of the GFC widget, because I really didn’t want to care about the numbers anymore… it’s so true, just because you have x amount of followers, doesn’t mean they’re all reading your blog.
    I have also stopped to read blogs where I don’t get any feedback (at all). It’s just so frustrating when you’re trying to build friendships.

    I think you’re on a good path.
    Sorry for not having commented in a while.

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Don’t be sorry for not commenting, sometimes that thing called “life” gets in the way, and we often forget that actually living the life that we write so much about is what’s most important. I’ve really considered deleting the GFC widget….but I can’t force myself to do it. It’s silly, and I know that the number doesn’t translate into who actually reads my blog….but I spent 2.5 years growing that silly number. Sigh.

  • Brandi

    I am so glad you wrote this post… I only started blogging in Sept and just when I started to get a little momentum I started feeling like the uncool girl at school.. I feel like all the bloggers [as much as I love some of the ladies] are all competing for who eats the cleanest, who works out the most, who is the best parent, etc and I’m like I thought we were here to all describe our own journeys not to brag and compete?? Anyway, I plan to keep on keeping on, and I am glad you are too. :)

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Amen sister!! You hit the nail right on the head. It does feel a little bit like high school, doesn’t it? I don’t really have the time or desire or patience to keep up with the numbers game anymore. I gained loyal followers in the beginning just by being me, and I think that’s the best advice that I can pass on to you as a “new”ish blogger!! xoxo

  • Anonymous

    Kym, blogging for you is the best way to do it. Writing is a release, both creative and emotional. And if it helps YOU in any way, that’s really all that matters. Followers. Clicks. Fans. Whatever. Do you enjoy the process of writing/blogging? Does it make you happy? That’s what counts. Keep doing what you do… for you!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Thank you for your kind comment :) I definitely enjoyed blogging much more when it was just for me .. so that’s where I hope to take this space back to :)

  • Mrs.B

    Oh my goodness! I love this! It’s so refreshing. I’ve recently stopped reading a ton of blogs because of all the giveaways and sponsor stuff they post.
    I enjoy the basics and reading about people and their lives!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Thank you for your comment!!! I’ve unfortunately been skimming over my favorite bloggers as well, because it’s all giveaways and nothing that really inspires me. The basics is where we all (for the most part!) started and that’s where I intend to take this blog back to :) xoxo

  • Erin

    This is spectacular! You took the words straight out of my mouth. I’ve found myself getting caught up in all the mess as well lately. I was just saying the other day that we all started out blogging for ourselves. That’s the only way we got followers in the beginning. It worked back then and it can work now.

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      I absolutely agree with you!! That’s kind of where I’m at right now – I truly enjoyed blogging much more back when I first started out .. I’m not even sure how I found new blogs or how they found me back then, but they did! I’m going back to the basics and if it works again then that’s fantastic, but getting caught up in the numbers game that’s taken over the blog world is super exhausting and I’m over it!!

  • Dani

    Thanks so much for this post. I have a relatively small blog, and thought that if I had more GFC followers then I would have more comments….but it is not true at all.

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      It’s definitely not true at all! Stay true to yourself and utilize your voice, and the comments and friends will follow :) xo

  • Misty

    I totally feel you on every point. The blogging community has changed. It does feel like a bit of a rat race these days. I’m happy to see my readership go up. I’ve gained 200 new GFC followers in less than two months. What I have noticed is that my comments haven’t gone up, not even a little bit. Who knows if the new people are even reading… I’ve succumb to sponsors and giveaways, but I try to keep the heart my blog has always had. I try to still be me. It’s hard. There’s plenty of days I want to give up to.

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      I’m glad that I’m not alone in feeling this way – I was worried that I might piss someone off with my words, but everyone’s been in agreement! I have sponsored other blogs and participated in giveaways to promote TB, and I have a few scheduled through March (and as I mentioned in my post, I definitely find both to be very effective) … but I think I’m going to really hone in and get back to the basics of blogging, developing relationships with other bloggers and writing for me, and see how effective THAT is. It worked before, I hope that it will work now :)

  • Kim @ Slice of Life

    Love this post! Tried to leave a comment earlier but I don’t think it worked so forgive me if u see this twice! I loveeee the idea of connecting with other bloggers who want to share their lives and make friends! I think, for me, the most important part of blogging is that I’m sharing my life so that I can look back on memories!! Who wants to look back on blog posts from years earlier and see sponsor posts For ppl u don’t even know! I for one am glad you’re gonna stick around!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life


      I love everything that you said! I read older posts the other night back when I had 200 or so “followers” – my words came much easier and the relationships that I had with fellow bloggers were true relationships that were based on real friendships and caring about each others lives … it wasn’t about how many followers we all had.

      Many people say that they keep a blog to look back on their life one day — and you’re right, who wants to look back and see sponsor post after sponsor post after sponsor post?

  • Lisa

    Wow i feel like you have said everything i have been thinking. I do it for me cause i enjoy it and make a couple friends on the blogging world. But i do have to agree its not how it use to be when i started. But i am your active reader here and i have been for about 2 years at least. I want to say please keep blogging, if for no one else but yourself. I know i will be reading!


    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Thank you so much for your very kind words, Lisa – I am happy that you’ve been here for the past two years keeping up with the craziness ;) xoxo

  • Rebecca

    Well, you speak my mind, lady. I don’t have many followers but I’m not concerned with it either. I still won’t spend more time finding photo worthy situations, I still won’t neglect my “real” life to make sure this blog is entertaining to everyone. I just write what I want, sometimes there will be a picture, sometimes there won’t be; there are no fancy giveaways (I don’t even enter in any myself). I am always up for a button swap with other bloggers and everyone is welcome to advertise but I also understand that there isn’t anything lucrative about that with my blog. So be it, I love writing and just want to play around with my little corner of the web. I love yours, I relate to a lot of things that you write about and it’s a delight for me to read your words! I’m glad you will keep doing what you are doing. xo

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      You mean you will actually eat a meal before photographing it? ;) I can tell that you love writing – and guess what? You’re actually one of my favorite bloggers because you aren’t caught up in growing your following – you write for you and you write from the heart, and that makes you authentic. Sure you don’t have 10,000 followers, but you do have loyal friends who comment and care about your life and experiences. That’s how I was two years ago, and that’s how I intend to write this blog and interact with people from now on. xoxo.

  • Fel

    say it sister! xx

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      :) I’m glad that you enjoyed the post Felicia! xo

  • Jen

    Haha that first ecard is soooo funny and so true. :)

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      LOL! I am slightly obsessed with eCards ;)

  • Ashley Allan

    I love your posts Kym! Giveaways or not! Sure all the crap is great, but the blogs that people connect to are the ones that that are authentic- like yours.

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Thank you so much for your kind words, Ashley!! xoxo

  • Samantha

    Ok, not going to lie. I didn’t like this post when it started. But that’s only because you were questioning blogging. Once I got farther down, I began to love this post. Partly because you confirmed you weren’t going anywhere (wahoo!), but mostly because what you said is so true.

    Although I’m new to the blogging world and I’ve made a couple friends thus far (that includes you!), I definitely see it as a competition a lot of times. And as much as I try not to focus on the numbers, it’s a hard thing to get past when everyone else is talking about them.

    I commend you for saying screw it all. I don’t care what you think. Your blog should be about what you want it to be about, not what you think others want it to be about. It’s a reflection of you and I hope that one day you look back and are proud of what you wrote.

    I love reading your blog. I get excited when I see a new post from you. You are so genuine and that shows in your posts. So to make this long comment even longer, I’m happy you’re staying :) xoxoxox

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      No worries, I’m not going anywhere … even though some days I REALLY want to :)

      Maybe I was just living in a bubble and oblivious to it when I first started writing … but I don’t think that blogging has always been so competitive. I think that with the surge of “lifestyle” bloggers, everyone is in competition to “prove” who has the best “life” and the most “friends”.

      It’s taken me a long time to come to terms with liking myself … and I don’t really have the time or energy anymore to put in to convincing other people to like me, too … you know what I mean? You either like me or you don’t like me … and I’m finally okay with not everyone liking me.

      The things that I share here may not be a certain person’s cups of tea, but that’s why there are so many hundreds of thousands – probably millions – of blogs out there!!

      Blogs definitely are an extension and a reflection of who we all are – I went through my archives a couple of nights ago and I was really impressed with how the words and posts came so easily. I could tell in my writing that I genuinely enjoyed it. I didn’t feel pressured to write 5 times a week, and the posts were (for the most part) solid, quality posts.

      I want to get back to that … and I encourage everyone else to get back to the basics of the “why” they started blogging, too.

      I’m glad that I “met” you in blogland – you’re definitely a good egg Miss Samantha ;) xoxo

  • Hockey Fan

    I went through a phase when I was following anyone who had anything to do with hockey or horse racing. Your blog is the only one out of hundreds, literally, that I still follow. And the only reason is because of the heart you put into your posts. Real stories are irresistible, and you seem real, and more importantly, you seem genuine.


    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Hi Jes!!

      Thank you so much for your kind comment. Wow – it’s just what I needed to hear :) I know a lot of people who think this whole blogging thing is silly – but it’s something that I pour a lot of my heart, soul and emotions into … it’s like an extension of myself that’s completely public and open for the world to see … so it’s also scary at times, too.

      I’m glad (and flattered!!) that you still follow my blog, and for the right reasons. That motivates me to keep sharing the right stuff. xoxoxo

  • nancy88

    What a great post! I totally agree. I’ve been blogging for about a year and a half, and will stick to my guns when I say that my blog is more for me than my readers. It’s so easy to get caught up in all the other “stuff” with awesome giveaways (which I would be lying if I said I don’t LOVE giveaways) and sponsorship and numbers and and and… But my blog is exactly what I want it to be – a place to tell my story, and let anyone who might be interested read about me. If I can make someone smile with one of my posts, then it’s a bonus!

    I love reading your blog, and am SO glad you made the choice to continue it. Please don’t change anything at all! I know there are tons of us who feel this way.

    Please continue making me smile with your real posts, and don’t lose sight of why YOU started blogging! :)


    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Hi Nancy!!!

      Your comment is so refreshing – it’s so nice to see someone who really sticks to their beliefs and doesn’t get lost in the popularity contest of it all.

      Somehow, over the last year or so I’ve lost sight of what’s important and why I started writing….thank you for the last 3 lines of your comment, they have really motivated me to “stick to my guns” from here on out and to write for me, which is what a majority of you came here for to begin with. xoxoxo

  • Andrea Bai @ Glam Hungry Mom

    I completely agree with this post. So many people worry about followers, but not as much about content and being yourself. I love all your posts, and I hope you keep blogging. I love how honest you are, and that’s why you’re one of my favorite bloggers. I have been having the same thoughts as you. It seems like one big popularity contest at times to see who can get the most friends.

    p.s. can’t wait to blate you!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      *swoon* thank you so much sweet girl. I’m over the popularity contest – take me or leave me … I’m glad you’re going to take me on a blate – oh la la ;)

  • Emily Dextraze

    well said! I don’t often comment on blogs but I read a lot of them. I like how real your blog is and you always post great pics on facebook!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Awe thank you so much Emily!! If there’s one thing that I’ve been gifted with in this life, it’s transparency – I’m glad that people enjoy it ;) . Have a great weekend xoxo

  • Corinne

    Hi Kym! I definitely struggle with this myself and I’m glad to see that I’m not the only one who struggles with this. I recently have just decided to continue to blog because of why I started blogging in the beginning – to create a space for me to scrapbook the memories. If I gain friendships along the way? That’s the extra (wonderful) bonus.

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life


      Thanks so much for your honesty! I agree with everything you wrote. It’s very easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing, but it’s really important to take a step back once in a while and remember WHY you started blogging in the first place!! xoxo

  • Samm_AnaMarie

    I just started reading your blog about a month ago! I continue to read it (and check daily to see if you have a new post) because I like reading it! I might not comment on every post, but know that you have fans out there because of YOU! Thanks for being so honest in your words and bringing everyone back down to earth. Thank you also for the giveaway opportunities but I don’t read just because of that! xox

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Thank YOU so much for your very kind words and for checking in to see what’s new here – I appreciate you! :) Have a great weekend Samantha!! xoxo

  • Lacey_Renea

    For what it’s worth – I “follow” because I like your content – I don’t remember how I cam across your blog but I’m glad I did :)

    Lacey @ CHARM + Sass

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Thank you, Lacey!! xoxoxo

  • The Mayor of C12

    What you said … that’s exactly WHY I follow you, and am skipping so many others. If I want a magazine, I’d read a magazine. If I want a DIY session, there are multiple ways to do it. I’m here for you … the end.

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      ♥♥♥ Thank you, “Mayor” ;)

  • Julie{isCocoandCocoa}

    Well said. I love blogging, even without the big following. And I’m trying to make sure I remember that and not compare myself to everyone else.

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      That’s my intention too, from here on out :) xo

  • Annelise @ Aunie Sauce

    Kym, I really appreciate how real you are. I feel awful, I haven’t been visiting ANY blogs lately. When your husband asks you to consider stopping your blog because he wants to spend more time with you, trust me, I don’t spend any time doing this blogging thing I love so much anymore. I write a quick post every morning, hit publish, and get to emails on the weekends if I’m lucky. It’s so sad and kind of embarrassing.

    That being said, I know you saw my post yesterday because you were so sweet to comment on it. Can you believe that we both wrote about this same kind of thing on the same day? Ever since I first “met” you, I’ve felt a special connection. I think it’s actually because you look an awful lot like my friend here in Idaho named Andrea. But really though, you have always been so supportive and wonderful since the beginning. I really appreciate you and all you give back to this blogging community. Thank you for bringing a fresh and beautiful perspective to this whole “follow via gfc” thing. I’m guilty of putting that as my giveaway entry, too!

    I’m so glad you’re here to share your life with us. Thank you for being a beautiful soul and for being a friend. Here’s to not comparing ourselves to others, to forgetting about numbers, and to blogging for US. ♥

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      No need to feel awful or embarrassed, silly girl!

      I can believe that we wrote about the same thing – I was actually inspired by your post and a few others that I’ve read over the past couple of weeks. It feels like many bloggers who are grouped in the “lifestyle” category are currently feeling the same way that we do – I blame this on the fact that we’re all documenting bits and pieces of our lives…and it’s quickly turned into who has the best style, or the most exciting life, or who can cook the most delicious meals, or who has the most “friends.” Gosh, it’s exhausting to keep up!

      I really like how you’ve been formatting your posts lately….just writing and hitting the publish button. It’s really motivating to get back to the basics of blogging and how/why I started.

      Thank you for being you ♥

  • Mo (New on U)

    I questioned the same thing a while back and did stop for a long while. But I took a step back and remember why I started, and it was honestly just to chronicle what is going on in my life as a journal almost. I went back and read old posts and thought “Oh! I had completely forgotten about that!”. It was a great trip down memory lane, so I decided to pick it up again. But the whole follower thing is CRAZY! I see bloggers with 900 followers and then 2 comments. I mean, besides journaling, the best part of blogging is the interacting! I’d rather have 25 followers that I had a “relationship” with than 1000 that never commented. Anyway, keep doing what feels right for you!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Haha! I went through my archives last week as well, and it was so motivating for me!! Writing came so easily back then, and I’m really inspired to get back to that. When I look back on this blog one day I want it to be a reflection of me, not an attempt to keep up with other bloggers.

      And I so agree, I’d much rather even five loyal readers than 1000 “followers” who don’t actually follow :)

  • Kelly {Sparkles and Shoes}

    I think you should definitely stick with it! I know some of my favorite bloggers have found a rut and have decided to switch topics or blog less often, only when they really have something to say. I don’t have sponsors on my blog because that is not what it is about – I am sharing what I have to say and that is it – good luck!

    Sparkles and Shoes

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      I’ve cut back to 3-4ish posts per week, and doing so has definitely helped a bit. I’m glad that you’ve stuck to what you believe in and only share what you have to say. Your blog will remain a wonderful reflection of your life when you look back on it one day! xo

  • Rachel

    I love following along and reading – please continue!!!!! And FYI… I can barely make dinner, I don’t DIY, and I NEVER schedule posts. I pull something out of my ass every single day. And if I don’t feel like writing? I go MIA. That’s what makes it fun, right?

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Do you really Rachel??! Your posts always look so “put together” – I never would have guessed!

  • Casey

    I think every blogger goes through this feeling of “why the heck do I even do this anymore” from time to time. I know I did just a month or two ago. I was feeling bogged down by my own insecurities, much like you mentioned about not have great photos, or writing well…but I was also lacking interaction from my fellow bloggers. I was posting almost every day and getting very few comments. I felt slighted and like no one cared, so I almost closed up shop, too! Thankfully I chose to write about those feelings (just like you did) and I found many other bloggers felt the same! And my attitude changed. I started writing more for me. Getting back to the heart of why I started blogging in the first place. I quite worrying about those silly numbers and found my stride again! And I also made it a point to start to get to know my readers on a more personal level by visiting their blogs and leaving love as well! So, here’s my promise to you…you can expect more visits and comments from me, because I appreciate you and your creative space! I enjoy reading your blog so much!! Thank you for writing from your heart, pretty lady!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Yay, I’m so happy that you’ve found my blog, Casey! You’ve been a favorite of mine for months now, even though I’ve sort of been a creepy lurker ;) The feedback on this post has been unreal – I was worried that I might ruffle a few feathers talking about numbers and followers and giveaways and sponsors…but so many people feel the same way about this! Like you, I’m totally refreshed to write for myself again. And if I don’t want to write for a day or two or three…that’s okay, too. I’m truly looking forward to creating personal relationships with people (like yourself!) and getting back to what blogging should be about (for me, anyways!)

  • Lisette

    First off..I thought I was following you before. I rectified that. Via GFC and Bloglovin (which is really where I read blogs anyway). Thank goodness for giveaways–in that they bring people to your blog. Also, thank you for this post. I also started doing giveaways because it was “what everyone else was doing.” I like passing along great items to friends. I like giving. But I agree about the rat race with numbers. I look forward to reading what you write.

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      I love Bloglovin!! I definitely agree with you about giveaways – they are such a wonderful way to be introduced to other bloggers…but sometimes all of it can get so exhausting! I’m hopeful that I can return to the “old style” of blogging and I’d love to see a movement from all of my favorite bloggers in that direction as well. Have a great day!! xo

  • Ruth

    I love how many people have agreed with this! I REALLY don’t understand the NEED for numbers/popularity contesting at all. I’ve started afresh with my blog (ad the bog is only have my website, I wanted a portfolio that could attach a blog to as a bonus rather than just the main substance), but with my old one I totally got hooked on the numbers thing and it’s easy to do. Posting something the checking up on your stat’s constantly to see how many hits you’ve had etc, getting disheartened when one didn’t get much response etc. If you enjoy it DO IT, if you don’t and you’re just after a stack of followers, really, what is the point?

    So in essence, well said ;)

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      I sometimes wish that I could start fresh, or start anonymously, but so much blood (well that’s an exaggeration lol), sweat and tears have been poured into this crazy space over the past 2.5 years. I’m glad that you have a new space that makes you happy!

  • Vicki

    I am a brand new follower … BECAUSE of this post. Seriously, THANK YOU! You have said everything I’ve been thinking for a long time. Everyone is to GFC crazy lately … and since I made my switch to wordpress I haven’t worried about the numbers and I have went back to the root of what blogging is/was all about for me … and I have never been happier. I love the sense of community and friends I have made through blogging, but I too feel like it has become a lot of a rat race and that a lot of the community is gone … so yes, lets bring the COMMUNITY back :)

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Hi Vicki!! Thank you so much for your kind comment! Isn’t it crazy how many people are in agreement with this post? I thought for sure I would piss off a handful of people, but so far it’s all been very positive. So many people get burnt out from blogging due to the competition and cattiness of it all. I’ve considered switching over to WP, but I really like my layout here and I’m nervous about making the switch! I’m glad that you’re on board with bringing the community aspect back to blogging, and I’m also super glad that you’re here! xo

  • Dee

    I really appreciate this post. I’m also new to blogging, but I really started with the idea that it would be more like my journal… A way for me to work out my own thoughts & tell my story, to have it all on record somewhere in case my kids every want to go back & read what it was like when they were growing up. I am also trying to connect to other women who have similar experiences. I’m not a vegan, or a clean eater, or a crafty mom, or any of that. I’m just a hard working mom trying to get by…. If people read my blog, that’s great! If not, That’s okay too. I’m just looking to connect with people who can relate, and I can tell already that things can be pretty catty. I’m not all about the numbers, I just like keeping it real – which is why I enjoy reading your blog!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Dee, I love everything that you said! Blogging can definitely feel catty and like you’re back in high school – who has the most friends (gfc), who has the best science project (diy projects)…it’s really ridiculous! I’m glad that you’ve found what makes you happy while blogging – you sound like one successful blogger to me :)

  • Kim

    Love this post. As a fairly new blogger, I have been discouraged about the dreaded numbers. What I find now is that I enjoy writing about what’s going on in my life for me! If people want to read it that’s great, but writing for me is the best thing I can do. No stress and I’m happy! Win win! :)

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      That’s DEFINITELY the way to do it!!! Being a “successful” blogger isn’t about numbers – if you’re happy with your space then I find much success in that!! xo

  • Shane Prather

    LOVE LOVE LOVE this. A must read for newbies and pros alike :) Thanks to Jessica for pointing me towards your blog :)

    xo Shane

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Thank you for stopping by, Shane!!

  • Niki Caron

    I honestly hate GFC for that very reason. That number is always looming and it’s annoying. And you’re SO right – it’s actually only half of the number of subscribers I have and it’s really page views that count the most. I don’t want thousands of followers who don’t read my blog or interact with me! What’s the point!

    And I am SO glad you will continue blogging. YOU are the only person you should ever be blogging for! Keep it up girl!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Thanks for your comment, Niki! I wish Google would delete GFC for good (I did see a rumor yesterday that they were because they want everyone to convert to G+) because unfortunately I’m a big nerd and can’t bring myself to delete the widget myself!!

  • Brani Laine


    I love your from-the-heart blog posts & just your blog in general, which is why I choose to follow you and come back on a daily basis. I read your blog posts because I enjoy what you have to say. Like this post. I, myself, recently have been questioning whether I want to continue blogging. I feel the same way you do–I don’t have fancy Photoshop skills, awesome fashion pics [which, not going to lie, is a big reason some of my favorite blogs are some of my favorite blogs], and I feel like nobody ever really reads what I have to say a majority of the time.

    I chose to advertise with you because I enjoy you, as a person. I think you care a lot more about your readers than some of the more popular bloggers with millions of followers. Yes, I love reading Erin’s posts and other people like her (they are funny, witty, and provide entertainment…all while having cool captioned photos), but I love the bloggers who blog from the heart. The posts that make you ponder (like your recent travel post–I loved it!) and admire that blogger. I know I could spend a bunch of money and advertise with Erin or Aunie or anyone else, but I don’t connect with them as much as you, or the other people I sponsor.

    I’m glad you’re going to continue blogging. For me, I’m not sure. I only have a little under 200 GFC followers (and I know that does not mean anything. I realize 200 people are NOT reading my posts), but I just feel like I’m wasting my time when I could be journaling in a paper journal. I dunno. Thank you for sharing your true feelings. This is why you are a blogger whom I truly admire, and I’m happy to be advertising with you. I look forward to continue reading your thoughtful, from-the-heart posts.

    GFC followers and all that mean nothing at the end of the day…or they’re not supposed to, I guess, but to me…they do. I want people to read what I’m putting the effort into writing. But that’s just me. Maybe I’m selfish. Like I said, if I wanted to write JUST for me (which so many bloggers claim to do that I don’t feel really mean it; not saying you), I could write in a paper journal.

    Stay true to you. I adore Travel Babbles.


    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Hi Brani,

      Thank you so much for your sweet comment :) I’m definitely very happy to have found your blog, and I’ve loved all of the posts that I’ve read from you. You’re raw, and you’re real, and you aren’t really trying to fit into any specific blogging mold. That will keep you fresh, and inspired!!

      I’ve found that whenever I’ve been a little bit too inspired by another blogger and I have wanted to shift my blog into their direction (yes, I am guilty of this!) I’ve gotten burnt out super fast because I wasn’t staying true to who I am as an individual.

      I definitely understand what you’re saying about GFC and followers – we all want to make sure that the work that we put into our blogs isn’t just for ourselves, and that at least SOMEONE else out there is actually reading what we have to say – writing a blog post takes a lot of thought, time, energy and work, ya know!?

      I guess if I have one bit of advice, it’d be to network. A lot. I was all about getting my blog out there and finding other bloggers that I could relate to when I first started out. Let’s be real – no one is just going to stumble onto a blog by chance. They have to be drawn to it!

      There is no formula for having a successful blog, but I do believe that if you stay true to yourself and network with others to create genuine connections, you will feel successful as a blogger.


  • Serena

    Such a great post and I relate so much. I feel like the first thing people do when they go to a new blog is scroll down to see how many GFC followers someone has and THEN decide if the blog is worthy. Which personally I think is terrible, because some of my most favorite and most authentic bloggers have around 100 followers, while others that I consider somewhat crap have thousands. Recently I was finding myself getting so caught up in the numbers game, and I just had to let it go, because while my readership is small, it’s authentic, and that’s why I started blogging to begin with!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Amen sister!!! The number’s don’t mean anything! Focus on your traffic, networking with others, and staying true to yourself! xo

  • kellieBRIGHT

    I enjoy reading your blog every time you post. I blog so that everyone at “home” can keep up-to-date on our life in England. I don’t have very many “followers,” but I know that there are friends and family back at home that haven’t publicly followed. I love reading about your adventures and what you’ve been up to as it’s easy to relate to coming from a massive hockey background. It’s nice to just be able to share experiences and messages. :)

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      I totally agree! I see who comes from “” and it’s such a slight fraction of my traffic as a whole. The “followers”/numbers game is so silly. I’m glad that we found each others blogs, you give me hope that I’ll be AOK in raising our babies far away from “home” xo :)

  • Kristen

    I write for myself. I love fashion and pictures and all of that good stuff, but I’m not an expert on those things. So, it’s by accident if they end up on my blog. I wirte for me, and I’m not going to lie and say that having followers doesn’t make me happy. Because it does. But sharing the real “me” makes me happier. That’s probably why I only have 100ish followers, but I feel like those people get to see me, in the raw. If you like to blog, then blog the real “you.” I’ll keep following!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      I agree with you! For a while I tried to focus my blog on fashion, makeup, health and beauty…but those aren’t things I’m passionate about – heck I spend most of my days in sweatpants ;) – and I quickly burnt myself out.

      Obviously we all want people to read our blogs, but I’d rather have a small group of loyal followers than a large group of “followers” any day! xo

  • Andrea Franklin

    This was excellent, thank you for posting. I never click “follow” on a blog mainly because I’m awful and forget, but I do read a few blogs daily yours included. Proof that the GFC means nothing :) I’ve recently been talking to my husband about making my blog more public but you’ve given me some good things to think about first so thank you very much!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      GFC definitely means nothing – I wish Google would do away with it .. because I’m definitely lame and can’t delete the silly widget myself. Le Sigh.

  • Janna Renee

    Considering you are #3 on the Bloglovin’ “up and coming” blogs list…you better not quit! I love you and your blog, so just keep doing what you are doing and make sure you are ENJOYING it. Love you!

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Considering that YOU were #2 on the up and coming list, you better not think about quitting either ;) xoxo

  • kailyn marie

    AMEN SISTER!!!! I don’t ever follow blogs just because of a giveaway. I think that’s lame. I was actually just in the middle of typing up a ‘daily reads’ page and getting rid ofmy sponsors page because 1. it’s too stressful and 2. I’ve noticed that some people are swapping just to get there blog out there and then they never really come back and comment on your posts. does that make sense? haha, basically false swapping cos there is no connection between the two of you. so lame.

    • Kym Fox @ Travel Babbles | Living the (hockey) Life

      Having sponsors definitely adds a whole new level of stress to blogging!!

  • Meli

    All I can say is – please don’t quit. I’m not a blogger, so I can’t say much about the topic.
    But what I can say is that I enjoy reading your blog. What I love most about your blog is when you write about living in Germany (I’m German!)

  • Sophielou

    I know exactly what you mean. I haven’t been on the bloggersphere for TOO long, but I grew up on another website that turned from a small lovely community to a number hungry group of people. It’s not nice when all you want to do is express your feelings and meet some lovely people with the same interests as you. Don’t give up yet though, there’s still a lot f lovely people left who do appreciate other individuals and not just their follower number! x

  • jennifer

    thanks for this post! i really want to start a blog soon and this has been very helpful.

  • Kayde

    I really enjoy your blog. I think you have a very interesting point of view. I don’t really know much about hockey and moving around a lot. My husband works in the prison system so we pretty much stay in one place all the time. I think it would be amazing to move to a new place every once in a while. But then I think about how difficult it would be to learn a new place and new people and realize that maybe that is not the life for me. It seems like you are doing a great job adjusting to Germany.

  • Elizabeth Mayberry

    I am so glad you wrote this. I think we all need to take a second to think about why we do what we do. if we have a good reason, our blog (or our whatever) will reflect that but if our reason is to “be the most liked” or “be the most followed” then we will just be writing to please others and not writing from our hearts. I can think of several “big” blogs that have blossomed because they stay true to themselves. they have a reason they blog and things they share and growth just happened because other people caught onto their vision.

    let’s blog for community. let’s not let comparison steal our joy. let’s love what we do.

  • Molly Bakelette

    I think I am in the same boat as you sista!

    I am definitely frustrated with the numbers, but I think I too need to let that go. Can’t believe I am zoning in on my 50th post! If you had told me I would have made that many posts a year ago I would have laughed at you, a year ago I never even would have thought I would start a blog in the first place.

  • Nicola Kirsty

    Thank you so much for writing this! I found myself nodding at every point you made. I’d definitely rather have 15 readers who read what I write and comment regularly than 1500 who I never hear from. Although I’m relatively new to this blogger world, you’ve said everything I’ve been thinking recently, albeit considerably more eloquently.

  • Sami

    I am sorry I missed this post but great job Kym! I could not agree more. The race to get bigger and better all of the time leaves me feeling inadequate more often than not. Back to basics blogging that’s my new motto and crossing my fingers I can stick to it!

  • VapidVixen

    “But I will continue blogging for me.” YES! *air fist pump* I was getting worried for a moment while reading this post. As I mentioned in my first comment from your post this morning, that’s exactly why I first started following you. I don’t think I’ve ever entered one of your giveaways or even clicked on your advertisements. I just like reading what you have to say.

  • Augenie Justine

    Just came across your blog and I Love this post – You hit the nail right on the head! Excited to continue reading!

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